Tigers Christian Club -- Lesson for Wednesday, October 10, 2018
Adapted from “Who Likes a Whiner?” from Kids Honor Club from Biblical Parenting
Intro and follow-up questions: For snack today we are going to make “Wise Owls” -- like this (photo example). Put two crackers on the plate, layer with spreadable cheese, add raisins for eyes and an apple wedge for the nose. We’re going to talk about how we can act like “wise owls” -- no, we are not going to stay up all night. We are people and we aren’t designed to do that. We need to sleep at night. It’s just how we are made. But -- what does it mean to be wise? It means knowing how to solve problems.
Let’s start by reviewing what we talked about last week. We’ve been talking about honor, and last week we said we could show honor to each other by doing more than what is expected. This past week, were there ways you were able to do more than what was expected that added energy to your family?
Do you guys remember the skits from last week? When the child had a good attitude she did the task right away. That’s what it means to obey. Obey means “do what someone says, right away, without being reminded.”
But what happens when you’re in the middle of an activity -- say you’re reading a book or playing with trains or working on a project and you just don’t want to do the task you’re asked to do, like setting the table or helping out with something.
Has anyone ever whined before? “What does whining sound like? What does complaining sound like when you don’t want to clean up the toys? Let’s all whine at the same time!” (Use video recording to capture the whining and then play it back. “Have a fun time laughing at the whining voices.”)
Story: Exodus 16-17, told in paraphrase (quotes are from the Kids Honor Club curriculum):
Today’s story comes from the Old Testament, the book of Exodus, chapters 16 and 17. God’s people, the Israelites, were on a journey and had traveled a long time. Have you ever traveled on a long trip? Did you ever ask, “Are we there yet?” Well, I bet the Israelites were complaining and whining and wondering when they were going to get to the place God wanted them to go. They might have complained, “I wish I didn’t have to go on this trip...I wish I were back home.” And then, of course, they got hungry. And thirsty. And they were in the desert where there wasn’t any food or water. So they whined and complained about that. (Play the recording of kids whining.)
But do you know what happened? God did a miracle. He made flour fall from heaven at night while everyone was sleeping, so when they woke up they gathered it up and baked it into different foods. They called it “manna”. In the evenings God sent quail so they would also have meat to eat. Then, God told Moses who was leading the people to “take his stick and hit it on a large rock. When he did, water started coming out of the rock and everyone had water to drink.” God provided everything they needed.
It took the Israelites awhile to learn how to ask God nicely for what they needed and not complain or whine about it. What can we learn from this? “As we grow up, one of the things we learn is not to whine and complain but how to solve problems in honoring ways.” This week when you feel like whining or complaining, I want you to “think of different ways to talk and get when you want without whining or complaining. Then family life will be better and we will be doing what God wants us to do.”
“Our Bible verse this week gives us some good advice that the Israelites could have learned too:”
Bible verse: The Bible says: “Do everything without complaining or arguing.” Philippians 2:14.
So what does this look like in our lives? We know now what God wants us to do: obey first, right away, but then what? What if we can a problem with what our mom or other grown-up is asking us to do?
Let me give you an example. The other night I called everyone in for dinner. And actually everyone came right away! We prayed together thanking God for the meal, and I was so glad everyone had done both of those things. But then, right away, my son asked to be excused. I don’t him no because we hadn’t yet talked about our day with each other -- which is one of the things we try to do together at dinner. And do you know what? He sat right back down in his chair. He obeyed right away. Then he quickly added, “I have to go to the bathroom!” So of course I said, that’s fine, go go go! And when he was finished he returned to the table and joined us for the rest of the meal and conversation.
I was so proud of him for obeying right away. And I was proud of him for telling me he had a problem with staying at the table. He didn’t whine or complain. He explained his problem and we solved it together.
I want to call what he did “the wise appeal.” The wise appeal has three parts, and it’s a tool you can use if you have trouble with something your grown-up asks you to do. It goes like this:
Using the example I just mentioned it would sound like this:
Closing: Let’s review now what we’ve learned today.
-We learned that it is important to obey first and then talk about it with our parents.
-We learned how to form a Wise Appeal if we have a problem with what a parent is asking us to do.
-Can I tell you something? Your parents want to hear about your problems and your concerns. God wants to hear about our problems and concerns too. The Bible tells us that if we are worried about anything we should pray. But we are also taught to obey right away and later talk about it in a way that is honoring to our families and to God.
-What was our Bible verse again? “Do everything without complaining or arguing.” Philippians 2:14
Prayer: Dear God, “thank you for providing so many things for us. Thank you for giving the Israelites a leader like Moses and thank you for giving our families leaders like our parents too. Please help us to learn how to solve problems without whining or complaining. Teach us what it means to be unselfish at home. Amen.”
-owl paper bags: