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April 2021 In Review

4/30/2021

APRIL 2021 | IN REVIEW
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I Confess I Balked at This Title

It took me two years to crack the cover of this book. I think I wanted to believe I had learned all of this antiracist stuff already, and yet, here I offer you a few take-aways that reinforce how this is an on-going personal process, how in our own lives, a little bit at a time, we can continue to change our white-normalized culture.

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The Coddling of the American Mind

There is much to discuss in this book, but for this essay I focus on the writers’ claim that the decline of free play is harming our kids. I recommend reading the entire book, but in the meantime, consider how you might restrain your tendency to hover and intervene. I tried it myself recently, and let me tell you: it’s hard.

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Such a Fun Age

Most of us found this compelling, and yet, if we had difficulty with it, it was often because we wished for more growth from rounder characters. Still, as readers shared vulnerably about parenting struggles or times when they may have operated from a position of racial and/or class privilege, perhaps what vexed us the most was how easily we could identify with Reid’s characters, and how we wished for growth for ourselves.

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Easter 2021

Last Easter I cried out to God to help our world, and I watched at least three services online. This year, by contrast, I only felt empty. I signed up for the Easter choir in an attempt to be a part of something, but I had no idea that come Easter morning I would be blown away by a message that once again seemed to speak directly to me. What you are feeling makes sense, it said. This is the empty tomb. Please watch. See for yourself as we hope for a year of jubilee.

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Back to School (in more ways than one)

Throughout the pandemic I’ve had competing feelings about wanting to help versus wanting to hide. Recently though, I realized all of it boiled down to this: I simply needed to get out of the house. I never imagined I’d end up working as a lunch and recess monitor at an elementary school, but somehow, for now, it seems like the very place I’m meant to be.

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March 2021 In Review

3/31/2021

MARCH 2021 | IN REVIEW
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Tattoos on the Heart

Get your tissues ready and be prepared to let go of all of the grief you have stored up over the past year. Boyle may be sharing stories about his work with gangs in L.A., but the lessons he has to teach us apply to any time when we have felt like our efforts have failed us. Let him (and Jesus) remind you what success looks like.

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Breath

Does it really matter how we breathe? Why do certain breaths feel more satisfying than others? Can breathing actually heal your body? Take a meandering trip through human evolution, western science and eastern breathing techniques as Nestor tries to get to the bottom of the relaxing power of a really deep breath.

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Braiding Sweetgrass

Our book club read Kimmerer’s book last fall, but I wanted to highlight it here because I think it pairs so well with Hope Jahren’s The Story of More. Reading these books in combination gives us a more holistic view of how our planet works, and how we can take care of it and each other.

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Be the Bridge

In her book, Morrison shares her journey of waking up Black, and also provides a framework for initiating multicultural and multi-racial conversation in small group settings, places where Christians can listen and learn about how they can take part in the process of racial reconciliation.

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The Story of More

A small primer for anyone with a question about climate change, Jahren writes with a humor and humility that begs to be reread and shared with others. Bring your questions and your open mind, and be prepared to be moved to ask yourself how you can help.

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February 2021 In Review

2/28/2021

FEBRUARY 2021 | IN REVIEW
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Love Poems (for Married People)

If you’re anything like me, at this point, a year into the pandemic, you might (at times) welcome some (great) distance from your spouse and paradoxically could also use an incredibly awesome date night to make up for lost time. Read John Kenney’s short book of poetry and remember why you tried marriage in the first place, and why you are yet grateful for that person who consistently leaves one unwashed utensil in the sink.

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Song for a Pandemic Puppy Acquired During a Nor’easter at Christmas

When it rains, it pours, so apparently if you decide to jump on the pandemic puppy bandwagon, you will end up acquiring said puppy in the middle of a Nor’easter just as your kids switch to remote learning while you’re frantically preparing for Christmas. Things could always be worse, you say. Then they get worse. By the time Christmas rolls around, you’re not exactly sure how to express your gratitude that you survived but it comes out in the form of a question, something akin to: Did anyone just see that?

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The Searcher

In this new mystery, Tana French captivates her audience and protagonist with the Irish landscape, scenery that threatens to pacify the most inquisitive detective and throw a hound off its scent. One of our readers could verify that the author did a great job nailing the cadence and dialect of the Irish characters' dialogue. While slow to start (and at other times), we found this an interesting window into personalities that play their cards close to the chest.

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Sticky Faith (for Families)

While on a school playground recently, I overheard a conversation among teenage girls that gave me pause. Beginning with the question, You went through a Jesus phase in seventh, didn’t you?, the conversation quickly petered out, suggesting the topic gave those girls pause too. What struck me wasn’t that they were talking about faith. What struck me was that they didn’t know how to keep talking. All of this sent me into some reflection about how I might prepare my own kids for these kinds of conversations in their future.

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La Collaborativa Food Pantry

It’s pretty hard to engage in service work during COVID when the predominant message for so long has been “Stay home.” It’s also pretty hard to get involved when I feel more likely to hop a plane to Hawaii or buy that farmhouse on 10 acres. Recently I was compelled to remember to live and serve in my community while I’m still here. With that in mind, it was pretty easy to shift gears and pitch in with a service project my church had already been involved in for weeks.

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January 2021 In Review

1/31/2021

JANUARY 2021 | IN REVIEW
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Dear Reader,

During these past few months, I have read and written little. I did not send a newsletter for October, November or December. My church attendance (via YouTube) dropped off, and my prayer life diminished, though as some of my kids once again transitioned from remote to in person learning earlier this month, I noticed that my standing refrain switched from “Help me not kill them” to “Please keep them safe” -- same bottom line but very different sentiment. Our book club continued to meet virtually to discuss a text each month, and if you want to catch up on our reviews, check them out here. However, in the area of service, I have also felt like a dry well with nothing to give. This month, I experienced sparks of hope, and even more recently, as I began to hear of needs in our surrounding communities, I began to feel like perhaps I could find the energy to join in the efforts.

In Luke 4:38-40, we can read of Jesus’ healing power and be reminded of what we are supposed to do once we have recovered from illness:

“Jesus left the synagogue and went to the home of Simon. Now Simon’s mother-in-law was suffering from a high fever, and they asked Jesus to help her. So he bent over her and rebuked the fever, and it left her. She got up at once and began to wait on them.

At sunset, the people brought to Jesus all who had various kinds of sickness, and laying his hands on each one, he healed them.”

Once we are made well, we are meant to serve and help the next person in line. Today I’d like to offer the single essay that I wrote this month, a book review that also describes how the text intersects with my own writing and prayer life. It is my hope that in sending it your way it lifts your spirits and serves you as well, so that you can shine light wherever you are now.

Warmly,
Caroline

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Lit

Sometimes truth comes at you from the most unexpected places.

Let’s say, for example, that you’re reading the third memoir in a row about substance abuse -- and all of the really really awful choices people make when they feel unloved -- and you’re wondering to yourself why people can’t write about beautiful things for a change. You know you’re not the only one who needs a pick me up... Continue reading here….

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September 2020 In Review

9/30/2020

SEPTEMBER 2020 | IN REVIEW
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The Lemon Tree

This is one to pick up if you missed it the first time around. Tolan’s pain-stakingly detailed history embedded in a personal Israeli-Palestinian struggle will pull at your heart-strings and make you wish for one more person to do the next right thing. For someone like me who has trouble with dates and circumstances, Tolan breathed life and relevance into a conflict that for too many years felt intractable, and over there.

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(Not) Back to School: Advice from the Panel

Earlier this month I sat in on a virtual panel discussion hosted by Newton Covenant Church attempting to address the broad concerns of parents approaching a new, unusual and ever-shifting school year. Incredibly, experts in child psychology and education offered useful tidbits of advice that I was able to use to construct a new mindset and step more peacefully into day one.

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The Giver of Stars

This page-turner about packhorse librarians in Kentucky in the 1930s will shock you with its relevance. As entertained as we were (some likened the ease of the storytelling to that of a beach read), we were subdued and discontented by hard societal issues that remind us how far we have come...and how much we remain stuck in the same battles. We enjoyed the happy ending but wished that our society could reap such similar rewards.

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Cross Vision: How the Crucifixion of Jesus Makes Sense of Old Testament Violence

How do we reconcile the violence of the God of the Old Testament with Jesus’s message to love your enemy? Before we lose any more believers due to unsatisfactory explanations, I urge you to consider Boyd’s hopeful interpretation, one that challenges us to view troubling events through the eyes of the cross, and one that reassures us that God is the same yesterday, today and forever.

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Stamped from the Beginning: The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America

This was a difficult book to read, both because of its content and its structure. Chronicling the origins and intersections of segregationist, assimilationist and anti-racist ideas, Kendi debunks myths that have become embedded in American culture: that hate and ignorance led to racism and discrimination, that racism is in the past, and that anti-racism is intuitive and easy. On these points, Kendi says we have got it all wrong.

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August 2020 In Review

8/31/2020

AUGUST 2020 | IN REVIEW
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The Nightingale

Not only had I been meaning to read this book for a while, Kristin Hannah’s characters satisfied a recent itch I had to read about female WWII heroines. This epic spans the entire war and aftermath, but Hannah’s use of short scenes kept me turning the pages despite the horrors. I recommend gathering your own courage to open this book and remember the stories of those who never got a parade for bravery.

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The Art of Memoir

This month I felt daunted by the writing task ahead of me: revision. When I picked up her book on craft, Mary Karr seemed to know exactly how to commiserate and how to encourage. It was great to hear from someone who had “been there”, someone who could provide new insights into how to keep going with my project.

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Heads of the Colored People

Overall, we enjoyed reading this short story collection. While some of the characters were incredibly unlikable, we loved the connections between the stories, as well as the diversity of Black experiences in different places in life. We felt challenged and stretched and grateful for this chance to rethink what it means to be Black, and how being Black can mean many different things.

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From Motivated Infernalist to Hopeful Prayer Warrior

When my writing group insisted I share my beliefs about hell in my memoir, I balked at committing to a theory. Months later, a friend of mine recommended a book that offers a detailed analysis of Christian biblical explanations. I dove into the research. By the end, I still felt confused about the Bible’s message and yet satisfied in my commitment to pray for the worst, and hope for the best.

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Animal Therapy and More

I learned about this charity through some friends who keep this group close to their hearts. The charity has always worked to provide integrative therapies to children with cancer and other life-threatening illnesses, and now they also have an emergency fund to help families who are suffering further from circumstances due to the COVID pandemic. Consider making a donation today.

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July 2020 In Review

7/31/2020

JULY 2020 | IN REVIEW
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If The Oceans Were Ink

Eleven years ago a patient offered me a copy of the Quran. Why would I read it, I wondered? I was happy with my religion. The thing is, I came to feel that I should study it in order to better understand those who practice its teachings. As I followed Carla Power’s deep dive into this sacred text, I also appreciated the space to examine what I believe within a safe yet probing interfaith conversation.

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The Situation and the Story

As part of my continuing journey to learn the memoir form, I took a short writing course this month. Halfway through I wondered why my instructor didn’t spend more time teaching. Once I picked up Gornick’s short book on craft, I realized that the magic is in the reading -- dissecting the work of others as well as continuing to reread my own.

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The Water Dancer

There was a lot to dig into with this book! We were drawn into this story by its suspense, were fascinated by the idea of Conduction, and found a different selection of images and struggles than those we have found in prior reads of enslaved people. Above all, this is a story which makes it all too uncomfortably easy to draw parallels to the injustices that still pervade our society today.

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Mere Christianity

I approached this classic text a little nervously, hoping it would live up to the hype. By the end though, I lost count of how many times I wanted to quote a passage. For now, I want to highlight Lewis’s response to one of the critic’s biggest objections to Christianity -- How can you claim to believe in one God and yet say he is three persons?

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Summer Blast 2020 - Focus Fundraiser

This year during Summer Blast, our church leaders put a new twist on their annual fundraiser. Rather than just asking the kids to bring in money to donate to an identified church mission, the kids would raise money for each time they served a family member. My kids balked at this -- We do the work and they get the money? And yet, by the end, the exercise turned out to be unexpectedly fruitful.

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June 2020 In Review

6/30/2020

JUNE 2020 | IN REVIEW
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The New Jim Crow

Back in high school I was asked to view two photos, one of a white man and one of a Black man, and identify which was the criminal. Even back then I was aware of my own bias. But what should I do about it? After digging into Michelle Alexander’s The New Jim Crow and learning how the creation of the image of Black people as criminals has led to the crisis of mass incarceration of today, I walked away with ideas for how to elevate the Black image from this injustice.

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Is this for real?

I’m sure we are all familiar with compassion fatigue by now. Even in places that have been hit hard. But to insist that things return to normal is to turn a blind eye to suffering. Consider my experience in Cambridge. Then consider that trusting in God in this moment might not be asking for protection for yourself; it might look like asking for softening of your heart towards those still in the fray.

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Dear Mrs. Bird

We enjoyed escaping into this story, even though we found some key elements a little contrived. We marveled at the English fortitude to maintain a stiff upper lip and forge ahead with life amidst the bombs dropping around them. We compared their altered world to our current pandemic and our challenge to live our lives despite not knowing where our invisible enemy will strike next.

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What is your church doing about this?

One of the silver linings of the coronavirus pandemic has been the frequency with which my friends and neighbors have asked me how my church is responding. I have felt more freedom to talk about my church in my community than ever before. And yet, when they didn’t ask me what my church is doing about systemic racism, I felt ashamed. Today, I want to say: Hold the church accountable. We need to be a part of this too.

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Let’s hear from the Black community

One of my pastors says that the first way we can serve others is to listen, and then to keep listening. This month I listened in on three panel discussions led by School Committee Vice Chair Manikka Bowman and former Cambridge mayor and sitting City Councillor Denise Simmons as they explored challenges facing the Black community during the coronavirus pandemic as well as another recently declared public health emergency, systemic racism. Catch the entire series on Cambridge Community Television.

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May 2020 In Review

5/31/2020

MAY 2020 | IN REVIEW
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What’s Leftover

This month I read two books that tempted me to compare our current reality with fictionalized pseudo-apocalyptic and otherwise completely restrictive living situations. Walk with me through The Leftovers and Room and hope with me that when all of this is over, we’ll retain some semblance to who we want to be.

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What We Carry

At a time when I was repeatedly disappointed by losses of connection to the writing community, I got to sit in on a virtual talk with author Maya Lang. Her readings, and the free copy of her memoir that the publisher offered me, proved soothing comfort and encouragement to keep writing.

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I Capture the Castle

We highly recommend this book, especially if you’re “cocooning” during this pandemic, as we were happily engrossed in Cassandra's bubble and didn't even pay attention to the fact that the story was set almost 100 years ago. We also appreciated the similarly timeless English tendency to relate scenarios back to Austen. If you missed this back in 1948, grab a copy and enjoy a laugh!

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Born Again This Way

Back in March I attended Rachel Gilson’s book launch and was blown away by her articulate and persuasive voice. I was able to swipe a free copy of the book from the back of the church on my way out, but I encourage you to grab a copy of your own. You may know what the Bible says about same-sex relationships. Then again, you may, like me, find yourself surprised to hear it through Rachel’s words.

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Rethinking Fight Strategy

COVID is the closest thing to a world war my generation has seen. Like so many others, I have wanted to join the fight. But very quickly, I realized that I didn’t know how. With so many aspects of our life evolving during this time, perhaps it’s no surprise that I needed to shift my own strategy for serving.

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April 2020 In Review

4/29/2020

APRIL 2020 | IN REVIEW
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A Scream Goes Through The House

A brief conversation with my neighbor is about all the face-to-face contact I have with any person outside of my house these days, but speaking to her reminded me that during times of isolation, we can turn to reading about the shared experience. I dusted off an old book I’ve had on the shelf for over fifteen years...and found striking truths about how humankind has persevered through past plagues.

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Musing about the distance between us

I had so many writing goals for April that, on the surface, felt dashed by COVID-19. I also felt disconnected from the writing community I was just starting to find. But then I looked a little harder...and realized that those writers are still there, and if I would just pick up their books, I could still learn from them, until we meet again.

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Writers & Lovers

While we found King’s latest novel a fairly easy, compelling read, we appreciated the nuanced characters, especially Casey who drew us into her dreams and had us celebrating with her at the (fairytale) end.

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The Gap Between Hope and Reality

This month, I reflected on how, in some ways, Easter 2020 was no different than prior Easters. I also read Anne Lamott’s short book Help Thanks Wow: The Three Essential Prayers, and I appreciated her reminder that we can pray all three of these prayers, even in these circumstances.

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From sap to syrup, school to home

In March, I volunteered to help my son’s elementary classroom collect sap from a couple of trees they had tapped. The aim was to boil it down to make maple syrup, to be enjoyed with pancakes! Now we don’t know when they will be able to do that. But a recent hike taught me that our learning continues at home.

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